6 Tips To Deal With The Negative Comments That Come With Self Improvement

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6 Tips To Deal With The Negative Comments That Come With Self Improvement

6 Tips To Deal With The Negative Comments That Come With Self Improvement

When we make positive changes and pursue self improvement, we sometimes attract negative comments from our friends and loved ones. It doesn't matter if you start taking your fitness seriously, starting a business, or implementing the charisma tips you see on this channel, whenever you start to grow there are inevitably people who would like to see you stay the same

In this video I want to teach you how to deal with negative comments and hopefully turn that negativity to positivity. There are 6 tips I cover are

1. Use the toddler technique
2. Purposely misinterpret passive aggressive questions
3. Answer their questions with vulnerability
4. Use the 1 sentence rebuttal
5. Don't recruit; live it
6. Find one other person

Those 6 things have been a huge help in removing negativity from my own life. I hope you find them helpful in removing negative comments and negative friends from yours.

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  • Dee Gray
    May 22, 2016 at 4:37 am

    omg…I had to deal with a negative comment. The person I was talking to, said actually what you said in your video. “That why I will never do that!” then they gave that little “I am better than you laugh” My brain was like..say it say it say it!!!!…. I very politely said… “That is why we are different.” (could remember actually what you said..dang) And let the awkward silence linger. They had no come back, no laughing no nothing….. then was so nice afterwards…. THANK YOUUUUUUUU!!!!!

  • Julian Pleyer
    November 21, 2016 at 1:05 am

    This is by far one of the best channels on YT. These are exactly the Videos, that i´m interested in and i´ve gained so much knowledge in such a short time by whatching them. Thanks for your effort and keep going. You´ve got my Support!

  • Georg Hägglund
    February 26, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    “You can’t be a recruiter” – Very true. A bit sad perhaps but I’ve experienced the “other side” and it ain’t pretty. I had a close friend when I was younger. We started different schools and our contact was quite on and off. Met now and again. Offcourse had more contact via internet but never really was that close again. At some point he started to watch (something like your channel) or read different books not sure exactly what. Whenever we met (with often long distance in time) he just went on and on about different subjects. I could hardly breathe. At the same time he made a great distance between everything in our past for some reason I never understood either. I mean really taking a distance even to good memories. Also he had started projects all the time and never went anywhere with them. The next time he was on to something else. I actually tried to be a part of a few things but it just never gave me much (he got sick of them and just didn’t bother). I couldn’t handle it so I wrote him a nice and overly specific mail about our situation and how I felt. We met short after and discussed it.. He seemed to understand and we had a pleasant evening. But when we ate dinner just hours later.. He started again like nothing ever happened. I just got a big “BOOM” in my head.. I couldn’t handle it anymore. Eventually our friendship died off. It is a shame but I honestly got a bad tummy just thinking about hearing those damn conversations (he talked, I “listened”). When I now watch your videos I understand more why he was doing it.. But still. No way. It’s not worth going back there.

  • Matheus Barbosa
    March 18, 2017 at 1:39 pm

    usually I use the “I could never do that” as admiration/a compliment not passive aggressiveness. So if someone responded as in suggestion #4 I would find them a little rude

  • Susanne C
    March 25, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    you are head and shoulders above everyone else. in college most people are way too immature to even care about how the world works and what am I doing here.l it took me more than half a lifetime to understand what existentialism is

  • Kai Hughes-wilkes
    March 29, 2017 at 6:56 pm

    Your video litterally just helped clear some stress from my mind and really gave me a notion of relatibilty.

  • J. Christine
    April 8, 2017 at 10:42 pm

    “No, I don’t think that’s a good idea.” ?

  • Luke Beaulieu
    April 11, 2017 at 12:32 am

    Nice “V” neck, Cameron Diaz. JK, just ignore me.

  • Magdalena Pałucka
    April 28, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    I like your approach towards life, it is very helpful to listen to you from time to time:)

  • Marbella Solis
    May 19, 2017 at 11:57 am

    This channel is my holy grail!

  • Veda Jones
    May 21, 2017 at 5:22 pm

    Such a great video! Thank you!!

  • pottato Licien
    May 28, 2017 at 8:38 am

    Brother i just got 3 of your books for me and my siblings . you are awesome keep up the good work !

  • Stephen Michael Nelson
    May 30, 2017 at 7:18 am

    Thank you so very much! Your videos & perspective have been a valuable asset & you have been an un-met ally in my life. Cheerios, friend

  • gardehusar24
    May 31, 2017 at 9:15 am

    I have used the “I could never live like that” often. The thing is that I never thought that it was as a passive agressive statement, but I used it more as a “Wow, you have more balls/spine than me”

  • Mays Adams
    June 11, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    Thank you very much! I would try these tips!

  • ppsh43
    June 14, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    Looks like your decision to major in philosophy worked out well for you.

  • Emily Carter
    June 17, 2017 at 2:54 am

    I like your videos but I would like it if you used more hypothetical situations, not just your own, not that I don’t like yours, but more would be helpful

  • Pinoeee
    June 22, 2017 at 8:09 pm

    I think the New York meetup group is not active any more. If there’s still one, please let me know!

  • AscensionUSA
    July 1, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    This video addresses a problem i’ve been having, but i feel like my questions are unanswered. Currently, I’m trying to work on controlling my thoughts and emotions in a more positive way. I’ve always been a really stream of conscience rambling kind of person. As a result, I complain *a lot*, and i just want to be more calm and positive.

    At work today, I was stocking shelves with a co worker who is around 15 years older than me. I guess i didn’t really pay attention and i was complaining here and there about the work in general because im pretty new to stocking. She then just randomly said : “I’ve never known a guy who complains as much as you” in a terse way. And damn, that really cut deep. I wasn’t in the worst mood and i thought it was a relatively good day as far as me being mindful of myself, but what she said brought me down all the way, and made me shut up for the rest of my shift and sort of just crawl back in myself. Also the other day she pointed out i dont make eye contact much, and as a pretty anxious and awkward person who isnt very good at doing so, that hurt personally as well..

    What do i do in these situations?

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